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I’ve probably already recommended this book to you (I told my podiatrist about it when he told me his four-month-old wouldn’t sleep if that’s any indication of how frequently I suggest it). So just consider this a reminder.

The Wonder Weeks. Eight predictable, age-linked leaps in your baby's mental development characterized by the three C's (Crying, Cranky, Clingy), a change ... and the development of new skillsThe Wonder Weeks: How to Turn Your Baby’s 8 Great Fussy Phases into Magical Leaps Forward by Hetty Vanderijt and Frans Plooij made me a better parent.

Anytime the Dervish and I made any progress in our new relationship, she suddenly wanted to climb back whence she came. In protest, my good sleeper suddenly shaved hours off her slumber to buzz listlessly through her days like a drunken, irritable bee.

But right around the time I’d start to say “wit’s end” and “end of my rope” to end most sentences, the frustration (for both of us) would — suddenly — end. She’d emerge a new Dervish. Sweet. Beaming. Able to do something new and call-the-grandparents-worthy. We, her parents, felt like we’d just participated (poorly) in the lightning round of Red Light, Green Light.

She likes to keep us guessing.

Nothing special going on here, just normal development, clearly defined by The Wonder Weeks in regular intervals (and complete with encouragement from the authors and testimonials from parents who have been there/are happy to be done with that). Pure vindication. Because, according to the authors’ research, all infants go through the same things at just about the same time, based on their due dates, up until 54 weeks.

It seems infancy, from an infant’s perspective, is no walk in the stroller. It’s a lot more than just eating, sleeping and pooping — it’s learning how to be a person.

Since I’m still learning what it means to be person myself, I can empathize with the Dervish.

A special thank you to askmoxie for recommending this book back when I really, really needed it.