Posted by Fitz

I’m veering off of our normal course today to talk about how some of us got to be mothers in the first place…the art and science of conception.  Considering the number of hits that our “About Us” page gets, most of you are aware that I struggled with infertility for a couple of years before finally having The Bean.  I was surprised that I had to see an Reproductive Endocrinologist, and figured that I was the odd woman out when it came to needing help to have a baby.  Boy, was I wrong.  I am now surprised, saddened, encouraged, and inspired by the email I’ve received from many of our readers who have shared their own personal experiences with infertility.

What shocks me is how many women today are experiencing trouble conceiving and relying on the beautiful science of ART (advanced reproductive technology) to help their dreams come true.  One in six families experience infertility today.  One in six. Chances are, one of your close friends, neighbors, colleagues, or cousins is getting ready to pop her first Clomid pill or give herself her first injection of Menopur as we speak.   With science and a little luck, they’ll be pregnant soon, and well on their way to  the love, smiles, blowouts, and midnight feedings that we discuss on a regular basis.  That is the dream, and for most of these women, it will come true.  For many, though, it will take a lot of time and a lot of tears before their dream becomes a reality.

Infertility is excruciatingly hard, and it’s difficult to articulate the rollercoaster of emotions one experiences while going through treatment after treatment.  Many women feel broken, inferior, unfeminine…many feel like it’s their fault and their husbands should trade them in for a wife who can have kids the “normal” way…some can’t see a baby on the street or receive a shower invitation without bursting into tears…many women go onto have children, but are irrevocably changed by the whole experience.  I know I was.

When I think of all of you who have reached out to me to share your own experiences, and all of you who are trying to get pregnant right now, I want to celebrate our strength.  We as women are willing to go through extreme measures – whether it be jumping your husband’s bones when you’d rather be asleep or taking off your pants for anyone in a white coat – to reach our goals.  We’re willing to put ourselves through the ringer to nurture another human being.  And then, when we’ve done it once and see what motherhood is really like, many of us are inclined to go through it all again – regardless of what it will take.  We are amazing human beings, and we don’t give ourselves enough credit.  We are strong, we are resilient, and we can get through anything.  We’ve proven it time and time again.

For those of you who are experiencing infertility right now, I know in my heart that you will become mothers.  Remember how incredible you are – both mentally and physically – and take care of yourself during the time it takes to conceive (try acupuncture).  I’m with you every step of the way.


  • If you’d like to learn more about the wonderful clinic that helped us have The Bean, visit RMA of CT and read about the amazing Drs. Richlin, Leondires, and Hurwitz.
  • Click here to learn more about how acupuncture helps with infertility.